Check out this music that feels like a sanctuary for the soul (on my YT channel, Natural Clarity Calming)
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Music and Nature Soundscape
If you’re looking for a calming, meditative resource, check out Natural Clarity Calming on YouTube @NaturalClarityCalming. Here’s the link to the latest video: Enjoy! Until
When you change the way you look at things…
When you change the way you look at things… #lifeslikethis #perspective #naturalclarity #views #pointofview #empowerment #lifeskills #tools4life #educational #knowledge #knowledgeispower #YTshort #viral #growthmindset Until next
Brain Health and Creativity
Want a healthier, younger brain?! Bring on the creativity! (Life’s Like This is a division of NCC) #brainage #healthybrain #creativity #lifeslikethis #healthandwellness #healthyaging #healthyageing #music
Check out the amazing things that listening to music can do!
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Holiday Wishes!!
Holiday wishes from Natural Clarity Coaching and Life’s Like This (a division of NCC)! #holidays #christmas #lifeslikethis #celebrate #bestwishes #naturalclarity #santa #shorts #video #holidayseason #family
Perimenopause, Menopause, Post-Menopause: The Basics
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When a narcissist doesn’t like what you said 👀
The narcissist’s reaction when someone says something they don’t like #narcissist #catlife #toxic #narcissist #narcissists #scapegoat #cathumor #cathumour #catvideos #catshorts #lifeslikethis #naturalclaritycoaching #toxicpeople (Life’s Like
Tips for Dealing with Toxic People During the Holidays
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Not everyone feels happy during the holidays. Check out this video!
For some people, holidays are lonely, stressful, or sad. (Life’s Like This is a division of NCC) Until next time, ~Heather~ Natural Clarity Coaching &
Do you know how narcissists are created? Watch and find out
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C-PTSD – How toxic people can contribute to its development
C-PTSD: Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. While PTSD is a singular traumatic event, C-PTSD involves repeated trauma. Check out the video for more! Until next time,
Why are Narcissists Such Jerks?!
Why are narcissists such jerks? Check out the video to see one of the main reasons. (Life’s Like This is a division of NCC) Until
Don’t JADE – Justify, Argue, Defend, or Explain
Toxic people, particularly narcissists, love to hear others JADE – justify, argue, defend, or explain. Empower yourself and don’t JADE. Instead, detach, pick your battles,
New ‘Menopause’ series on the way
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Emotional and Psychological Effects of Abuse
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Physical Symptoms of Emotional and Psychological Abuse
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Healing from Abuse
Healing from Abuse – Series 1: Video 3 It may take some time, but healing from abuse is important and well worth it. #healingfromabuse #toxicpeople
Why Are Some People Toxic?
Why are some people toxic? Series 1: Video 2. Like and subscribe! It’s easy to assume that someone is just a jerk, but there are
Dealing with Toxic People (#1)
Welcome to my series on dealing with toxic people, even narcissists. There are basic ways in which anyone can deal with someone who is being
Looking for ways to deal with Toxic People (even narcissists)?
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Want to Know How to Reduce Dementia Risk? Check out this short video
We can’t avoid risk factors like age, sex, or genetics, but we can do things to reduce our modifiable risk factors for dementia. It’s never
Hurricane Melissa – Keep Jamaica in Your Thoughts
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Social Determinants of Health
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‘Life’s Like This’
I invite you to check out my new YouTube channel, ‘Life’s Like This’. As a division of Natural Clarity Coaching and Wellness, this creation hones
Hello again!
It’s been a while since I last posted. A few months, in fact! It has been a busy time with finishing up an Honours BA,
An Article Well Worth Reading!! (especially for Canadians) [see link in post]
As a lifelong Canadian citizen, I need to highlight just how important it is to be well-informed and aware right now!! Look to reputable and
Progress!!
Here’s a few images of where my hydroponic veggies and fruits are at this point in their Aerogarden systems. I love watching them grow and
More Hydroponic Progress – another part of a healthy lifestyle and healthy aging
I’m so impressed with how well these veggies and plants are growing in the Aerogarden hydroponic systems! It’s very easy maintenance and the benefits just
Part 2 – Modifiable Risk Factors for Chronic Diseases and Early Death – How to Not Die Prematurely
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Healthy Lifestyle and Its Influence on Quality of Life and Longevity – Part 1
Healthy lifestyle choices that promote quality of life and longevity often focus on maintaining physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Here are some key strategies: Nutrition/Food
Smoothies for Health and Healthy Aging (ingredient list included for my favourite smoothie)
Smoothies can be healthy, depending on their ingredients and preparation method. Here’s how: Nutrient-Rich Smoothies often contain fruits, vegetables, nuts, seeds, and other nutrient-dense ingredients,
Healthy Diet Matters (check out the Blueberry Oatmeal Muffin recipe below)
When we think about quality of life and longevity, there are many lifestyle choices that can make a positive difference. Those include physical activity, getting
Self-sufficiency with Hydroponics
Growing cherry tomatoes, mini lettuce, mini Bell peppers, peas, and strawberries with hydroponics. It’s amazing how quickly the process progresses from seed to germination, seedling,
Happy Friday!
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Dementia and its Risk Factors
Dementia is an umbrella term used to describe symptoms caused by disorders affecting the brain. For instance, Alzheimer’s Disease is a form of dementia. Dementia
Completely Different Experiences: Functional and Dysfunctional Families
One of the challenging things about having a dysfunctional family, particularly when we are keeping our distance or are completely no-contact with them, is seeing
What’s in a Name?
What’s in a name? Honestly, a lot! And that’s particularly true when the name we’re being called is negative and it’s coming from someone we
Complex PTSD (C-PTSD) and Coping-motivated/Emotional Eating
Complex PTSD, or C-PTSD, is a psychological disorder that can develop in response to prolonged, repetitive trauma, often occurring in situations where the individual feels
Lifestyle Choices to Help Prevent Dementia
Alzheimer’s Disease is the most common form of dementia/cognitive decline. Cognitive activities are the mental processes involved in knowing, learning, and understanding things. Dementia has
Imposter Syndrome
This is an issue that can affect anyone, but it can often be found in those who have experienced narcissistic abuse (ie. scapegoats). It is
Toxic People
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Inflammation and Wellness
Let’s get right into this! So, what are some of the factors that can cause inflammation? And what are the common symptoms that would suggest
Narcissistic Family Dynamics and Obedience
Have you ever heard of Yale University Psychologist Stanley Milgram and his famous obedience experiments? (This is the link to a short YouTube video, if
Narcissists and Herd Mentality
Whether it’s within family, friends, a workplace, or other group environment, narcissists and toxic people can and will make use of herd mentality to accomplish
Scapegoats and Seedlings
This little seedling is one of many that I have started for the upcoming growing season. She’s a red Bell pepper plant. So, you may
Some Ways to Wellness
A great focus for anyone, at any age, is that of wellness. “Wellness is a holistic integration of physical, mental, and spiritual well-being, fueling the
One Foot In Front Of the Other: Self-care Matters
One of the most important things any of us can do for ourselves when we’re dealing with abuse or stress is to take care of
How does the narcissist move on so quickly?
When we split from our narcissistic partner, how can they so easily and quickly move on to someone new? That’s a question many of us
The Chatter Behind Our Backs – Scapegoat Stories
Yes, narcissists and other toxic people will talk to outsiders about us scapegoats negatively when our backs are turned. During relationships and after a fallout,
The Narcissistic Tactic of Baiting
Narcissists often engage in behaviours aimed at eliciting strong emotional reactions from others, including trying to provoke them into getting upset. This can serve several
The Journey To Self: Scapegoat Style
Within a dysfunctional, narcissistic family, when we think about breaking ties with one or both of our parents, or maybe our entire family of origin,
The Two Faces of Narcissists and Other Toxic People
If we happen to be a family scapegoat or in a relationship with an intimate partner or friend who exhibits narcissistic traits, we will likely
Narcissists and and the Basics of Scapegoating
Narcissists often have a strong need for admiration, validation, and a sense of superiority. They may engage in behaviors that make them feel better about
Where’s the Justice?
Question: Where’s the justice when we’ve been abused by a narcissist or other toxic individual? ⚖️ Well, let’s give this some thought. Overall, toxic and
Putting Time and Energy Into Ourselves Rather Than Dwelling On Toxic People and Their Hurtful Behaviour
Dealing with the aftermath of a toxic person can be challenging, but it’s essential to focus on our own well-being and cultivate a positive mindset.
Learning to Connect With and Trust Others After Narcissistic Abuse
Rebuilding trust after narcissistic abuse can be a challenging and gradual process. Here are some steps we can consider taking to rebuild trust in ourselves
The Effects of Narcissistic Abuse
Experiencing narcissistic abuse, especially on a long-term basis, can have profound and lasting cognitive effects. It’s important to note that the impact of abuse can
Bloom
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Death of a Disordered Parent (Or an Enabling Parent) – Scapegoat Support
Experiencing grief after the death of a disordered or enabling parent can be a complex and challenging process. It’s important to recognize that everyone’s experience
Happy New Year 2024!!
Wishing a happy new year to all! Until next time, ~Heather~ Natural Clarity Coaching naturalclaritycoaching.com na********************@***il.com Natural Clarity Coaching on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and TikTok
Low Expectations
I don’t often write from a strictly personal level but I thought this experience might resonate with other scapegoats. My narcissistic parent – despite constantly
Resolutions, anyone?
As we quickly approach the beginning of a new year, some of us may be thinking about resolutions to make. Most scapegoats are conditioned to
Holidays Can Be Tough, But We’ve Got This!
Just a quick post on Christmas Eve here in Canada. Yes, holidays can be difficult and hold many challenges. It might be the need to
Scapegoats and Golden Children (or Golden People) in the Orbits of Narcissists
Anyone who is a scapegoat will have dealt with the challenging feelings that come alongside hearing about how wonderful the golden child or golden person
Scapegoats and Identity
As scapegoats, we’re typically chosen by a narcissistic parent on the basis of personal attributes and characteristics that they find threatening to their control or
The Connection Between Narcissistic Abuse, Trauma, and Addiction
As I’ve written about in previous posts, narcissistic abuse can be emotional, physical, psychological, and/or verbal. Those who have experienced it may struggle with anxiety,
Peace and Space After Narcissistic Abuse
Maybe we went no contact with the narcissist. Or low contact. There may simply be new boundaries that we won’t allow to be crossed. Whatever
Feel Those Feelings!
One thing many of us find common with narcissists is that they don’t like seeing others express emotion, especially their scapegoat(s). Why? Because they can’t
Narcissists are Thieves of Many Things
Narcissists are definitely thieves. Of time, people, things, money, and the list goes on. As far as time goes, narcissists steal our time by wasting
This Upcoming Online Program Might Be For You!
Are you interested in being part of the movement to raise awareness about using intuition to its fullest, identifying red flags, and understanding toxic personalities
The Simple Science Behind Narcissism
Have you ever wondered if there’s science behind narcissistic behaviour? Well, read on, because there most definitely is. People who exhibit narcissistic behaviour have often
Growth Mindset
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Scapegoats and Imposter Syndrome
So, to start off, you might be wondering exactly what imposter syndrome is. Well, it’s generally described as a psychological pattern in which an individual
The Enabling Parent and the Scapegoat/Black Sheep
As scapegoats or black sheep within our family of origin, we need to not only contend with a difficult narcissist or other form of disordered
Some of the Effects of Childhood Narcissistic (and Other) Abuse in Adulthood
This is a topic that I’ve written about before. But there’s no doubt that it’s an important subject that bears repeating. In the simplest of
When You’re The Scapegoat
Without a doubt, being in the role of scapegoat – regardless of the relationship within which it occurs – is absolutely undesirable. And unfair. It’s
So many online resources at our fingertips! In fact, there are lots right here!
In this age of technology, we have the ability to instantly find information on virtually anything and anyone. Although we need to exercise discretion in
Free Mini-Course on the Basics of Narcissistic Personality Disorder
This free mini-course touches on the basics of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Optimal viewing is full screen (button in bottom right-hand corner of slideshow below).
Preview of New Course for Viewing!
Check out the Introduction section of my new, self-paced course offering, ‘Using Intuition and Red Flags to Avoid Toxic Behaviour‘. This will give you a
New Course Available
Hi All! Just posting to let you know that there is a new course available for purchase from Natural Clarity Coaching – Using Intuition and
How Trauma Stores in the Body
“Trauma is not what happens to you, it’s what happens inside you as a result of what happened to you.” ~ Gabor Mate With trauma
Narcissists who are also scapegoats
Yes, it’s possible for a narcissist to have been, or still be, a scapegoat. This is particularly true when they have been narcissistically abused by
Narcissists and Their Victim Mentality
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‘Lack of’ can have as much of a negative impact as observable experiences
As they say, trauma isn’t all about just the bad stuff; it’s also about the good stuff that never happened. And great malice isn’t necessary
Shrugging Off the Controlling Opinions of a Dysfunctional Family
I think it’s important for this to be said. If we have come from a dysfunctional family of any kind – but particularly narcissistic –
Engage in ‘Flow’ for Self-Care
From the field of what is known as positive psychology, the theory of ‘flow’ was created in the 1970s after studies were conducted on participants
How to Say Goodbye to Limiting Beliefs
Limiting beliefs are a state of mind or beliefs about yourself or the world that are restricting. These beliefs can run the gamut from “I
Toxic Family System – Basics Refresher
Hey there! So I thought it might be beneficial to go over dysfunctional and toxic family systems, such as is found with narcissists. This is
Put the focus on healing
I’ve written about this topic in the past but felt that it was worth talking about again. When we realize that someone in our life
“Why Don’t You Just Get Over It?”
“Why Don’t You Just Get Over It?” – some of the most popular words of toxic people. When someone goes no- or low-contact with them,
De-stressing
Hello, all. I wanted to do a self-care feature and touch a bit on how to de-stress in the comfort of your own home. There
When Special Occasions Are Challenging
Hi all, I’ve been busy working on various projects and realized it had been a bit since I wrote a post. So, for those of
Intuition and Why We Should Listen to It
Being aware of our intuition and feelings is important. This is especially true when it comes to how we feel around certain people. The Oxford
More on Self-Acceptance
As has been mentioned in past posts, self-acceptance is incredibly important. So, here are some tips on making that happen: ________________________________ Forgive ourselves for past
How not to live our lives based on toxic people’s words about us
When we grow up in a toxic family system, which leaves us open and vulnerable to other toxic people as we move along our life’s
Ways to Manage Eco-anxiety
Eco-anxiety is defined as “the distress caused by climate change where people are becoming anxious about their future” (Coffey et al., 2021). This is
From the Ashes
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Let it RAIN
Hello All, Thanks for being here. 🙂 RAIN is an acronym for a healing, meditative system for mindfulness and compassion regarding behaviours and thoughts that
Trust
A warm welcome to the new visitors to the site! I love Google Analytics for providing insight into website activities. So, one topic that presents
Self-Care and Fitness Trackers
When it comes to self-care, exercise, nutrition, sleep, and stress management are major components. Self-care can sometimes be challenging to quantify and keep track of,
Scapegoats/Black Sheep are often Truth-Tellers
In many cases within a dysfunctional family system, the individual who is silently labelled as the scapegoat or black sheep will be a truth-teller. By
Attachment in a Dysfunctional Family
Hi All, I thought it might be beneficial to write a post about attachment within dysfunctional families, particularly with narcissists. Attachment theory is based in
Perspective Is Everything
Hi All, Just leaving this here (click to watch or check it out on my Instagram or TikTok pages – Natural Clarity Coaching): Perspective Is
Abuse, Stress, and the Toll on Our Bodies
Childhood abuse and trauma, together with cumulative negative experiences with toxic people as our lives move forward, often results in an exaggerated physiological response to
Separation and Divorce
Both separation and divorce are difficult experiences. This can be particularly true when dealing with a toxic person. Narcissists are often the main cause of
New Online Program Being Created
Hi All, Hope this finds you well. Thanks to everyone who has recently joined the mailing list and to the increasing numbers of people who
Why am I the scapegoat?
Why am I the scapegoat in my family? Many of us ask ourselves this question on an ongoing basis. And while there are not usually
Time and Experiences Lost to Toxic People
One of the things that I found most challenging in my own healing journey was the feeling of having lost time and positive life experiences
The Two Sides of an Enabling Parent
Hello, everyone! I wanted to write a bit about enabling parents and the two sides that we might see with them. There’s one side that
What Happens When We Leave a Toxic System?
When we decide to go low contact or no contact with dysfunctional family members, friends, partners, workplaces, and so on, what happens to those individuals
Difficult Realizations
(Just a note to start off with. As promised, more to come on self-acceptance (see previous post) in an upcoming post.) Anyone who reaches an
Accepting Yourself
Toxic people often try to make others feel “less than”. Why? Because it makes them feel superior. It gives them someone to criticize and point
New Year, New Possibilities for Peace
I’m a little late for a New Year’s post, but here it is in the spirit of January 1st. My wish for everyone, especially those
Self-Care as an investment in personal health and strength
Self-care is something that I make note of in my writing on a regular basis. Why? Because it matters…a lot. “Self-care is a sustainable and
Scapegoats of Narcissists: Abused and then taking the blame for the abuse
A key feature of narcissists is their need to create a scapegoat (or, sometimes, scapegoats). Scapegoats are the fall guys for toxic people. Narcissists: “Our
Happy Holidays!
To all of the visitors to this website, thank you for stopping by! And to those who celebrate Christmas, I’m sending out a hearty Merry
Happy Holidays! Here’s some tips to help you get through, especially if toxic people are in the picture
Well, here we go. Another holiday season is upon us. While special occasions should be enjoyable, they can be quite the opposite when toxic people
Social Determinants of Health and Growing up in a Dysfunctional Family (Possibly with Narcissists)
In my current university program studies, a certain number of electives are required in order to fulfill the requirements of a degree. Last year, I
Enablers are often abused by narcissists
For many of us – whether we are no contact, low contact, or still involved with our family of origin – witnessing or hearing
Special Occasions and Toxic Families
With Thanksgiving underway in the U.S. today, there will be many people attempting to deal with difficult situations. This could be in the form of
Emotional Loneliness in Abnormal Environments
As children in dysfunctional families, particularly with narcissists in the mix, emotional loneliness can be a strong factor in our lives. We may feel very
The betrayal of a toxic family system
Toxic family systems bring with them SO much distress, pain, and harsh betrayal. Here’s a few of the reasons (set in the context of a
Inner Strength
In my work as a crisis volunteer and life coach, as a student of psychology, and through my own personal experience, it’s clear that many
Thanksgiving
For those of you celebrating Thanksgiving this weekend, enjoy! Consider taking a few moments to reflect on everything for which you are grateful in your
Narcissists love fanning the flames of discord, especially against scapegoats
For anyone who has had issues with a narcissist or other toxic individual, it is evident that they love to fan the flames of discord.
The hypocrisy of toxic and personality-disordered individuals
“Do as I say, not as I do”. This is a mainstay of toxic people, particularly narcissists. Most adult children of narcissists will likely have
Does ‘no contact’ work?
Hi everyone. After a late-summer holiday, I started back to my university psychology studies. So I’ve been busy. But I wanted to sit down and
It’s YOUR Life
As a member of many online groups on the subject of dealing with narcissists and other toxic individuals, I have observed a variety of common
They make it about you because it can’t be about them
It’s intriguing how narcissistically-inclined individuals refuse to take the blame for anything, even when everyone involved is aware that they are clearly at fault. Definitely
Finding the ‘you’ that you never knew
When you’ve spent time under the thumb of a narcissist, particularly from your childhood, you might never have had an opportunity to get to know
Music As a Tool For Coping
Growing up, I spent hours upon hours soaking up music. As a musician from a young age, performing and listening to music of many genres
Dealing with the fallout of standing up to the status quo in a toxic family system
When we stand up for ourselves within a toxic family system – for instance our family of origin, especially one headed by a narcissist –
Try not to bulldoze those red flags
As I’ve been working on my university summer term courses, a lot of great post ideas have popped into my mind. So, I’ll try to
The road to a better place isn’t always a smooth one
Hi everyone, It’s so great to see the analytics showing ever-increasing numbers of readers on this website. Beyond the cathartic exercise it is for me,
Reach out and don’t look back
Hi all! I don’t usually write specifically about my personal experiences with narcissists. However, here we go. In honor of my growth mindset perspective and
Requests for Post Topics
Hi All! Just dropping in to let you know that if you have any specific requests for topics that you’d like me to write on,
We can always count on ourselves. Let’s hear it for Me, Myself, and I!
After finishing up my first-year university exams and final assignments, my three children and I then went through the process of moving to a home
Being emotion-free with narcissists is always beneficial
Hi all! I’m taking a break from writing university course research essays to … well, to write a post. Ironic, isn’t it? So, one of
Happy Family Day!!
Where I live, Family Day is celebrated. It is essentially a day to take a rest from work and spend time with family. That day
Say ‘No’ To the Role of Family Scapegoat
As I sit down to write this post here in Ottawa, Ontario, Canada, I’m looking out at several inches of newly fallen snow (after a
Don’t Let Fear Keep You Stuck
My university courses are keeping me quite busy these days and yet the ideas for blog posts continue to flow. So, here we go! One
Prioritize Yourself
I have written posts on this subject in the past but I feel that it’s important enough to repeat. If you’ve been or are currently
Moving On to 2022
Hopefully the holidays have been enjoyable for readers on this website. However, if you’re struggling with mental wellness issues, toxic people in your environment, or
Coping with the Holidays
So, it’s been a little while since I last had an opportunity to sit down and write. As I’ve posted in the past, I returned
Common Outcomes of Narcissistic Abuse
While living in, or after removing yourself from narcissistic abuse from a family member, friend, partner, employer, etc., there are some common outcomes that you
Understanding Narcissism So That You Can Get On With Life
From my experience and more reading on the topic than I care to remember, narcissism can be brought down to one word: ego. But it
Moral Grandstanding and Virtue Signaling … More Narcissistic Tools
Before I get to my post, I wanted to welcome all of the new visitors to this website. The analytics for the site are revealing
Sleep and why it’s so important (One person’s journey)
For me personally, when I was married to a narcissist, I became sleep-deprived. First of all, he snored and rolled non-stop from the moment he
Back with some news!
It has been a little while since my last post here. Between a welcome end-of-summer holiday and other happenings, I took some time away from
Growing up with a Narcissistic Parent
Narcissistic parents; they aren’t what anyone would choose if we had a choice in the matter. They color so much of our lives in dark
If You Can’t Beat Fear, Just Do It Scared
A saying that I’m quite fond of is, “If you can’t beat fear, just do it scared”. Sometimes “doing it scared” can be our best
Find Yourself
When asked what I believe is the most important step to take towards peace, fulfillment and happiness in life, particularly during and post-narcissistic abuse and
Strength grows …
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A sad but true tale of a narcissistic grandmother
This is a situation I knew of many years ago. And it’s a cautionary tale for anyone who has children who will be interacting with
Depression Resource
This is a great short video from WHO with a view of depression and its perception that is quite unique. If you’re interested, the link
Life as the Family Scapegoat
From the perspective of an ACON (Adult Children of Narcissists) and a DONM (Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers), I could literally write a book on my
When special occasions are challenging (especially where narcissists are involved)
For everyone who finds special occasions like today, Father’s Day, challenging for any reason, I get it. If special occasions also feel like walking on
ACONs (Adult Children of Narcissists) and dealing with becoming aware
As an adult child of a narcissist, life can be challenging in many ways. The shock of the realization that one’s parent(s) is/are narcissistic can
Make Yourself a Priority
Many of us are natural caregivers. We enjoy looking after others (people, animals, etc.), and that’s a great and admirable trait. But one thing that
When you leave a narcissist, do they try to win you back?
The answer to that question is: Yes, most narcissists will try to win you back if you leave them. However, they don’t do this for
Dealing with the emotional reaction to realizing you’ve been experiencing narcissistic abuse
The realization of the fact that you’ve been experiencing narcissistic abuse is a double-edged sword. On the one hand, your eyes have been opened and
What is Emotional/Psychological Trauma?
In emotional/psychological terms, trauma can be described as a deeply disturbing or distressing experience. Another description of trauma is emotional shock following a stressful event
The Enabling Parent in a Narcissistic Family System
As a child of a narcissist parent, it can be all the more devastating to witness the other parent behaving in an enabling fashion. It
Finding peace in your life
For anyone, whether they are recovering from narcissistic abuse, trying to depressurize from a high-stress occupation, contemplating and/or implementing major life changes, living with mental
Tactics used by Narcissists to control and/or silence others – Part 2
So continuing on from Part 1 of this topic of the tactics used by narcissists in order to control and/or silence others, here are some
Tactics used by Narcissists to control and/or silence others – Part 1
Narcissists use a variety of tactics to get what they want, including control over or silencing others. Here are just a few of the main
Choose the people in your life with care
The bottom line when it comes to negative, unpleasant people is that you have no obligation to have them in your life. From romantic partners
Being grounded and mindful despite a narcissist’s efforts to negatively affect you
If you are currently in a situation where you have to endure interactions with a narcissist, here are a few ways to stay strong, balanced
If you decide to leave, there are resources available to assist and support you
One of the most difficult situations I encountered after making the decision to leave my alcoholic and narcissistic spouse was finding my way out. We
Red flags and ultimate results of narcissistic abuse
If you are/have been in a relationship with a narcissistically-inclined individual, here are some of the most common results: You believe that you can’t live
Flying Monkeys – They can behave just as abusively as a narcissist
You may have heard the term “flying monkeys”. Just who is this referring to? Flying monkeys refers to people who act on behalf of a
Listen to your body – it will let you know when something is out of balance and requires attention
One of the regular themes in my posts is to listen to your gut/intuition. Another one that is of importance for everybody, but particularly if
Live your Life for You (it really can make a difference)
Something I think many of us have noticed in life is that it can be human nature to feel concerned about what other people think,
Self-Care Series – No. 3 – Exercise
Exercise is an important part of self-care. It can be anything from stretching routines to walks to running to biking to hiking to working out
Don’t expect lasting, authentic, positive change from a narcissist
Narcissists rarely change; not in any authentic way. If they appear to have done so, it’s likely to not be genuine or long-term and is
It’s possible to steer clear of the narcissist’s storm
Narcissists – they’re a dramatic bunch. Their antics often blow in like a storm. Most of what they do involves attention-seeking tactics, gossiping as though
What other people think of you is none of your business; an important key for living a happier life
Here’s the lowdown on many people – they will believe whatever suits them about a particular situation/person. Whether their conclusion is accurate or not, their
Trust your Gut (Intuition)
The definition of intuition is “the ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning”. Intuition is a tool that is always in
My “Why” as a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach
I think it’s natural to sometimes wonder what brings a person to a certain career choice. For anyone who might be curious as to why
When someone asks, “Why do you/did you stay with the narcissist?”
So, this is definitely an issue for many of us who have been or still are in a romantic relationship with a narcissist. Well-meaning (most
Self-Care Series – No. 2 – Acupuncture and Acupressure
Continuing on with the short self-care series, our focus should always be on caring for ourselves to ensure that we are strong and as healthy
Self-Care Series – No. 1 – Massage Therapy
As I have mentioned in many previous posts, self-care is a major and integral component of health and wellness, particularly during or after narcissistic abuse.
Hang in there! You’ve got this! (Leaving a narcissist)
To anyone who is contemplating leaving a narcissist or in the process of doing so, just hang in there. You’ve got this … you can
Happy Family Day!!
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Happy Valentine’s Day!!
A day to celebrate love!! Until next time, Heather ~Natural Clarity Coaching~ www.naturalclaritycoaching.com na********************@***il.com Natural Clarity Coaching at Facebook, Instagram and Twitter
Self-Care ❤
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Darkness to light: Some of the impacts, as an adult, of being raised by narcissists, and how to start your recovery journey
For those of us who were raised by narcissists, there are some very common challenges that may rear their ugly heads when we are adults.
Holistic Health – The Focus at Natural Clarity Coaching
Holistic Health is the focus for healing and wellness at Natural Clarity Coaching. Spiritual, physical, mental, emotional and social. It’s a whole person approach based
Growth through Continuing Education
One form of personal growth involves engaging in continuing education. Lifelong learning keeps your mind open, provides you with newfound knowledge or additions to current
When you start seeing your worth…
This!! Heather ~Natural Clarity Coaching~ www.naturalclaritycoaching.com na********************@***il.com Natural Clarity Coaching on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter
Music – one of my favorite forms of DIY therapy; what’s yours?
Music has always been a big part of my life. Listening to it, performing it on the piano, composing it. From a very young age,
How do narcissists get past our defences in the beginning of a romantic relationship?
Most of us who have ultimately realized that we are dealing with a narcissist in a romantic relationship will question how this person was able
Healthy Lifestyle Choices Do Make a Difference
No matter what life may throw at us, one of our best lines of defence is making healthy lifestyle choices. Those include consuming nutritional food
Perimenopause – something that isn’t truly talked about enough
Okay. So, perimenopause is a subject that many people are unaware of and yet it is something that affects every woman. It is defined as
Bring on 2021!!
Finally – 2020 is heading out!! Bring on the new year!! Wishing you all the best in 2021!! New posts on the horizon. Feel free
Narcissists and accountability – like oil and water
Lack of accountability is a major element of narcissism. Why? Because being accountable, in the mind of the narcissist, is tantamount to being ‘wrong’ or
Peace
Today and every day, no matter who you are, I wish you peace in your life. It’s worth its weight in gold. So, if you’re
Dominoes of Dysfunction
One of the effects that narcissistic individuals tend to have on everyone around them is that their behaviour can have major impacts, typically in a
Positive Self-talk (it really works)
Some of the more popular self-talk phrases have become somewhat cliched; nonetheless, they are still beneficial when it comes to talking to ourselves with positivity
Triangulation – a tactic often used by narcissists
Triangulation is an all-time favourite tactic of many people with narcissistic tendencies. Divide and conquer. Control and manipulate for the benefit of ego. Simple yet
The Path to Changing Unhealthy Habits and Behaviours
We all have at least one unhealthy habit or simply a behaviour we don’t particularly like. Might as well call it like it is…lol. But
How to avoid feeling lonely during the holiday season in our ‘new normal’
The holiday season has always had the potential to bring a mixed bag of emotions with it, including loneliness. This year, the pandemic has created
Learning to rely on yourself for approval (looking inward, not outward)
Learning to rely solely on yourself for approval in your life is an empowering step. The fact of the matter is that everyone around you
Dealing with the realization that someone in your life has narcissistic tendencies
Realizing that someone in your life has narcissistic tendencies can be a lot to process. There could be a multitude of happenings that led you
Self-awareness is a useful tool, especially when dealing with narcissists
An incredibly useful tool in narcissistic abuse recognition and recovery is self-awareness. Self-awareness allows us to be in touch with how we are feeling mentally,
Houseplants and their many benefits
An article on the Psychology Today website dated September 14th, 2019, lists 11 ways plants enhance your mental and emotional health. I completely agree with
The Silent Treatment (narcissists love using it)
So, my last post touched on how narcissists use words to control. Typically, if words don’t have the desired impact that a narcissist wants, they
Remember – They’re Just Words
Many tactics regularly implemented by narcissists involve the use of words. They use words to manipulate, deceive, belittle, confuse, make accusations and so on. Bottom
Projection – Its everyday use by Narcissists, and choices for how to respond (or not)
So, first of all, in psychology terms, projection refers to taking one’s own feelings, beliefs and/or insecurities and projecting/placing them onto someone else. Let’s say,
What’s the best thing to do when a narcissist launches a smear campaign against you?
For anyone who has had to deal with a narcissist, you will likely have discovered that they are masterful with smear campaigns when they turn
How being raised by a narcissistic parent or role model can color every future relationship
If you grew up with a narcissistic parent or role model, that experience has the potential to cause issues for you in other relationships. First
Peace after Toxicity (aka Narcissists)
If I had to say what the biggest benefit was for me after removing toxic, disordered narcissists from my life, it would definitely be peace.
Bucket List
Bucket List = a list of things a person wants to do during their lifetime. Do you have a bucket list? Until recently, I didn’t
Nutrition, Exercise, Sleep – The Big 3
Nutrition. Exercise. Sleep. These three items are integral to our overall health and wellbeing. Making them part of a daily routine helps to ensure that
Support system rooted in experience, knowledge and compassion
As a survivor of many things, including narcissistic abuse, C-PTSD and anxiety, to name just a few, I have chosen to dedicate my journey to
Strength arises out of Challenges
Strength arises most often from the challenging times in our lives. It is often born out of our survival instinct or the need to protect
Self-care and mindfulness are important when working from home
Many of us have been experiencing the intricacies and complexities of working from home due to the global COVID-19 pandemic, some of us for the
Breathing Technique for Anxiety and Sleep – 4-7-8 “Relaxed Breath”
Here is a great way to reduce stress. It can also help with falling asleep. It’s called the 4-7-8 Breathing Technique (“Relaxed Breath”). This is
What other people think of you is none of your business – words to live by
Not giving any energy or time to what other people think of you; this is one of the greatest tools for finding peace and happiness.
Low Contact and No Contact for Protection Against Narcissists
Low contact and no contact are two highly-recommended tools to protect oneself from narcissists and their dysfunctional, abusive behaviour. Low contact means simply having very
C-PTSD and Muscle Armoring – Always Tense and Braced for Trauma
For anyone who lives with C-PTSD (Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder), Muscle Armoring (or Body Hypervigilance) can be a very real and challenging issue. With this
International Self-Care Day
Celebrate self-care today and every day. 🙂 Heather – Natural Clarity Coaching na********************@***il.com www.naturalclaritycoaching.com Natural Clarity Coaching on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter
Perspective – A Skill (Superpower?) Well Worth Developing
Perspective is a skill (or maybe even a superpower?) worth developing.
Focus on your Recovery
We could talk all day, maybe even for several days, about narcissistic behaviour and the negative impact that it has on many of us. It’s
Narcissists are Time Thieves
When a narcissist is involved directly in your life, especially as a partner, there is no doubt that they will take many things from you.
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery with Natural Clarity Coaching
One of the main areas of focus at Natural Clarity Coaching is to work with clients who have recognized that they have been the victim
What’s Natural Clarity Coaching all about?
So, what’s Natural Clarity Coaching all about? It’s all about life and wellness coaching with special focuses on narcissistic abuse recovery, living and thriving with