Maybe we went no contact with the narcissist. Or low contact. There may simply be new boundaries that we won’t allow to be crossed. Whatever the case may be, less time interacting with narcissists or other toxic people often amounts to more peace and space in our lives.

How do peace and space help? First of all, we can step back and just breathe. And we can view ourselves and our lives without the cloud of abuse hanging over us. Peace allows for clearing the mind of abusive chatter. We can see things more clearly, including ourselves. And the more space and peace we experience, the more strength we develop and the less tolerance we have for abusive behaviour.

Will peace and space feel strange off the start? Definitely. When we’ve been in any sort of abusive relationship (from family to partners, co-workers, friends, etc.), we don’t have either of those things. They are unfamiliar. So when they come into our lives, it can be unsettling at first. But if we sit with them and learn to appreciate space and peace, they can take us to beautiful and empowering places. We can learn to love ourselves, to see red flags and toxic patterns, and to take steps to protect ourselves from future abuse.

The longer we have peace and space in our lives, the more clearly we will see behaviours that don’t mesh with them. We’ll protect them because we know how important they are to our wellbeing. And, most importantly, we’ll grow to recognize that we deserve to be treated with respect and that we are not to blame for the issues of disordered people.

Here is a link to resources for finding peace after abuse: peace after abuse

Until next time,

~Heather~ Natural Clarity Coaching

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