Many tactics regularly implemented by narcissists involve the use of words. They use words to manipulate, deceive, belittle, confuse, make accusations and so on. Bottom line: narcissists use words to control others. When words don’t work for them, they will often flip the situation to that of the silent treatment. But that’s another post altogether.

If it is necessary to deal with a narcissist, a major defence for protection against their twisted use of words is to keep what they say in perspective in order to avoid being damaged or manipulated. Hold this in mind: They’re Just Words. Plus, these words are typically coming from someone who is disordered and protecting their excessively fragile ego. Also, in order for those words to hurt, manipulate, belittle, or confuse us, we have to first allow it. But if we always keep in mind that they’re just words being tossed out at us as a narcissistic tactic, it makes it much easier not to take any of it personally or be drawn into the web. This definitely takes practice but it’s very possible to master it.

At the very root of interactions with narcissists, it is most beneficial to implement our own countertactics to help to keep our wellbeing intact. Engaging with a narcissist rarely leads to positive outcomes. Sometimes it’s not possible to avoid narcissistic individuals. So, TJW (they’re just words) is always there for us to put into play as a protective barrier.

So, the next time you are interacting with a narcissistic individual, take a deep breath, remember your own strength and power, and put all of their nonsense into the TJW rubbish pile where it belongs.

Until next time,

Heather ~Natural Clarity Coaching~ www.naturalclaritycoaching.com na********************@***il.com Natural Clarity Coaching at Facebook, Instagram and Twitter