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Self-Care Series – No. 1 – Massage Therapy

As I have mentioned in many previous posts, self-care is a major and integral component of health and wellness, particularly during or after narcissistic abuse. I will be posting on various ways to implement self-care in a short series.

Today, the self-care topic is massage therapy. Whether you attend with a massage therapist, utilize massage tools or simply use your own hands, massage therapy can bring with it relief for muscle discomfort and tension, regardless of its origins. In the case of dealing with narcissists and their abusive behaviour, mental stress easily converts into physical discomfort in our muscles and other areas of the body. This can then create a cycle of abuse – stress – physical discomfort – lack of sleep from discomfort – mood and concentration issues from discomfort and fatigue – etc.

A massage therapist can assist greatly with helping us to achieve relief from muscle issues. We can also use our hands to manipulate a knot, sore spot or trigger point in the neck, shoulders, back or anywhere on the body that we can reach. There are also many devices available for at-home use. This is one that I use myself (purchased from Amazon – click on link below for further information):

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This model is a shiatsu back and neck massager with optional heat. It does an amazing job of loosening tight, sore muscles (just be sure to read the manual prior to use). I’m always impressed with how quickly my mental state improves once I achieve full or partial relief from pain and discomfort on a physical level. And I like the fact that I can do this whenever I need to because it’s a DIY type of self-care.

Our bodies, minds, emotions and spirits are intricately connected. It’s important to take care of ourselves because this will help to carry us through whatever comes our way in life. As I’ve mentioned in past posts, it is especially integral to stay strong while in a relationship with a narcissist, if you are thinking of leaving a narcissist, if you are in the process of leaving a narcissist, or after leaving a narcissist. And, as always, support systems are another incredibly important facet of journeying through difficult and challenging experiences.

Until next time,

Heather ~Natural Clarity Coaching~ www.naturalclaritycoaching.com na********************@***il.com Natural Clarity Coaching on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter

*Disclaimer: I may receive a small commission if you click on the link in the post and purchase the item.*

Hang in there! You’ve got this! (Leaving a narcissist)

To anyone who is contemplating leaving a narcissist or in the process of doing so, just hang in there. You’ve got this … you can do it. Whether this is a family member, friend, romantic partner, etc., you can and will get to a better place.

There’s no doubt that it’s incredibly challenging to arrive at the decision to leave behind a narcissist, let alone actually leaving, but there is so much more for you on the other side of this situation.

Believe in yourself and your future. Everyone deserves respect, particularly from loved ones. If you aren’t getting that, then you need to consider moving on. Yes, it can be tough to imagine your life without this person, and, no, it isn’t easy to make huge life changes. But they are very much worth it. And when you look back, you will wonder why you didn’t make the changes sooner.

Narcissists rarely change. Trying to make them see that they should behave decently is typically a waste of energy (and also something you really shouldn’t need to explain to anyone). And while you’re working on convincing them, they are continuing to manipulate, undermine, sabotage and damage you further while wasting more of your time in the process. In the end, moving on inevitably brings on new opportunities, personal growth, and so much more.

During the decision-making and/or leaving process (wherever you may be right now), keep self-care at the forefront. You need to be strong on every level in order to move forward. If you make self-care a priority, you will benefit from it more than you can likely imagine right now. And find support in people you trust. That includes not only family and/or friends but also social workers, psychologists, coaches or any other resource that you can locate to help you get through this.

Just know that there are multitudes of narcissistic abuse survivors out there rooting for you and every other person trying to move beyond a narcissist in their life. Picture yourself in a better time and place and then put one foot in front of the other to start the journey. Your feet may feel like lead and your mind may be spinning, leaving you confused and muddled. That’s normal under these circumstances. But know that you can do it and you will thank yourself for it some day when peace, happiness and clarity become daily happenings.

Until next time,

Heather ~Natural Clarity Coaching~ www.naturalclaritycoaching.com na********************@***il.com Natural Clarity Coaching on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter

Darkness to light: Some of the impacts, as an adult, of being raised by narcissists, and how to start your recovery journey

For those of us who were raised by narcissists, there are some very common challenges that may rear their ugly heads when we are adults. Here are just a few: 1. Depression and anxiety; 2. Low self-esteem; 3. Trust and abandonment issues; 4. Feeling unworthy of love and respect; 5. Downplaying accomplishments; 6. Finding yourself in recurring dysfunctional, destructive relationships; 7. Low or no self-care.

These are just some of the possible outcomes resulting from a childhood with narcissistic parents or role models. Obviously, because we are all individuals, the specific results will be unique. For the majority of us, it takes many years to recognize and then accept the damage that has been done on so many levels. In all honesty, some people never recognize it for what it is and, subsequently, go through their entire lives suffering. It doesn’t have to be this way, and this is one of the many reasons that I have dedicated myself to helping others in the realm of narcissistic abuse awareness and recovery.

My primary recommendation, whether a person has just an inkling of a feeling that something was/is ‘off’ in their family of origin or relationship(s), or if they have a massive “a-ha” moment of realization and see the damage within themselves, is to seek out support. Forums, support groups, therapists/psychologists/counsellors who are knowledgeable in narcissistic abuse and treatment, narcissistic abuse recovery coaches such as myself, friends who understand … whatever supportive resources you can locate for yourself, just do it. Having support is absolutely key in journeying through narcissistic abuse awareness, acceptance and recovery, particularly in the early stages.

In addition to support, it is imperative, beyond educating yourself about narcissism (fragile egos and disordered individuals) so that you understand what happened and why, to shine the spotlight on your recovery. Be patient with yourself, take the time you need to make your way through the process, look after yourself on all levels – mental, emotional, spiritual and physical. You need to make yourself strong for this journey. I can’t emphasize enough just how important this is. Invest in your recovery because it will serve you well in the future. In fact, it will more than likely change your life for the better in ways you never imagined!

Until next time,

Heather ~Natural Clarity Coaching~ www.naturalclaritycoaching.com na********************@***il.com Natural Clarity Coaching on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter

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