Hi all! I’m taking a break from writing university course research essays to … well, to write a post. Ironic, isn’t it?
So, one of the key ways to address any dealings you need to have with a narcissist is to try to leave emotion out of the interaction. Narcissists thrive on our reactions when they’ve pushed our buttons; the more emotional the response, the better, as far as they’re concerned. It makes them feel as though they’ve controlled us and “got their own way”. And, when it comes down to it, that’s very true. When we allow a narcissist to bait us into an emotional response, we are literally handing over our power. That’s exactly the reaction they always hope for, and we sometimes fall into their traps. Let’s face it – it isn’t easy to deal with a narcissist at the best of times, and they always seem to know just what to say to upset us. That’s one of the most common characteristics of narcissists.
Here’s the thing, though: when we go into an interaction with someone we believe to be toxic, if not narcissistic, we have the choice to arm ourselves with the promise that no matter what is said or done, we will not react from an emotional level. This tactic may need to be repeated a few times because most narcissists won’t give up after just one unemotional response. But, eventually, they will lose interest in attempting to draw us into their game. When they don’t get any control or other benefits from trying to force an emotional reaction, they get bored. They are getting nothing out of it anymore. More than likely, they’ll move on to someone else who will give them the response they’re hoping for.
Trust me – this gets easier and more automatic the more you do it. It takes practice but it’s very possible to master it. And the self-control and strength it will give you is amazing. It’s empowering.
So, give it a try if you feel like it’s important to you. Take back your power by not feeding the trolls. You’ll be shocked by how great it feels to turn those tables and flip that script! Good luck!
Until next time,
Heather ~Natural Clarity Coaching~ naturalclaritycoaching.com na********************@***il.com Natural Clarity Coaching on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and Twitter