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Darkness to light: Some of the impacts, as an adult, of being raised by narcissists, and how to start your recovery journey

For those of us who were raised by narcissists, there are some very common challenges that may rear their ugly heads when we are adults. Here are just a few: 1. Depression and anxiety; 2. Low self-esteem; 3. Trust and abandonment issues; 4. Feeling unworthy of love and respect; 5. Downplaying accomplishments; 6. Finding yourself in recurring dysfunctional, destructive relationships; 7. Low or no self-care.

These are just some of the possible outcomes resulting from a childhood with narcissistic parents or role models. Obviously, because we are all individuals, the specific results will be unique. For the majority of us, it takes many years to recognize and then accept the damage that has been done on so many levels. In all honesty, some people never recognize it for what it is and, subsequently, go through their entire lives suffering. It doesn’t have to be this way, and this is one of the many reasons that I have dedicated myself to helping others in the realm of narcissistic abuse awareness and recovery.

My primary recommendation, whether a person has just an inkling of a feeling that something was/is ‘off’ in their family of origin or relationship(s), or if they have a massive “a-ha” moment of realization and see the damage within themselves, is to seek out support. Forums, support groups, therapists/psychologists/counsellors who are knowledgeable in narcissistic abuse and treatment, narcissistic abuse recovery coaches such as myself, friends who understand … whatever supportive resources you can locate for yourself, just do it. Having support is absolutely key in journeying through narcissistic abuse awareness, acceptance and recovery, particularly in the early stages.

In addition to support, it is imperative, beyond educating yourself about narcissism (fragile egos and disordered individuals) so that you understand what happened and why, to shine the spotlight on your recovery. Be patient with yourself, take the time you need to make your way through the process, look after yourself on all levels – mental, emotional, spiritual and physical. You need to make yourself strong for this journey. I can’t emphasize enough just how important this is. Invest in your recovery because it will serve you well in the future. In fact, it will more than likely change your life for the better in ways you never imagined!

Until next time,

Heather ~Natural Clarity Coaching~ www.naturalclaritycoaching.com na********************@***il.com Natural Clarity Coaching on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter

Perimenopause – something that isn’t truly talked about enough

Okay. So, perimenopause is a subject that many people are unaware of and yet it is something that affects every woman. It is defined as the transition to menopause at the end of the reproductive years and literally means “around menopause”. This phase can begin as early as 35 and end (without a period for 12 months) as late as 59. The female body begins to make less and less of the hormones estrogen and progesterone, which control menstruation, and this time is considered to be perimenopause.

With perimenopause comes a variety of symptoms of varying levels of severity, and every individual has their own unique experiences with it. In fact, some (lucky) women can breeze through this transition with few symptoms. However, most women don’t escape from more severe symptoms at some point. These can include: period changes (time between cycles, length of periods, type of flow, irregular bleeding between periods, etc.), fibroids, hot flashes, vaginal dryness, sleep issues, mood changes, bone loss, forgetfulness (mind fog), and so on.

As mentioned, at the very root of perimenopause issues are hormone issues. For example, when progesterone levels dip, it is no longer in balance with estrogen, which can lead to estrogen dominance and a host of problems such as a decrease in sex drive, an increase in PMS symptoms, irregular periods, depression and anxiety, mood swings, headaches/migraines, hot flashes, tender breasts, bloating, weight gain, hair loss, growth of facial hair, insomnia, fatigue, concentration issues, etc. High estrogen can eventually lead to the development of fibroids, endometriosis, hypothyroidism and breast cancer, to name a few. Therefore, an important step is to try to get those hormones back into balance. First of all, if you are experiencing symptoms of perimenopause, speak with your healthcare specialist first and foremost. They can take steps to ensure that nothing else in need of attention is taking place and to run any tests corresponding to perimenopause issues (tests to determine hormone levels and other related items, PAP smears, pelvic scans, biopsies, etc.). Also, the condition of adrenal fatigue can create further imbalances so it is worth ruling out as well. Most of these peri symptoms will disappear once a woman officially enters menopause; however, there is no point to needlessly suffer in the meantime.

There are a variety of treatment options available: changes in diet and lifestyle, weight loss, exercise, managing stress, hormone replacement therapy (synthetic and bioidentical), herbs such as Vitex, vitamin and mineral supplements. Even something as simple as getting enough sleep can make a positive difference. Again, it’s best to discuss any plans you intend to implement in your life with your healthcare provider prior to moving forward with them. Vitamins, minerals, herbs – many have the capacity to interfere with both over-the-counter and prescription medications. Vitamin/mineral toxicity is also a potential hazard if too much is consumed.

There are absolutely endless resources available to read and watch once you know what to search for. Education is key. Once an understanding is reached, the issue at hand can be met head-on with confidence and (hopefully) less fear. There are also some great support groups online. There’s no doubt that knowing you aren’t alone is extremely beneficial.

So, if you’re a woman who is suddenly experiencing negative changes in yourself on any level (physical, mental, emotional) and you’re between the age of 35 and 59, perimenopause may be the culprit. Again, at its root, it is caused by hormonal imbalance. It is entirely possible to reestablish balance and, in many cases, lessen or eradicate the unwanted symptoms. Ask questions, be informed, take steps to ensure that your quality of life and wellness remain intact while you journey through perimenopause. You’ve got this!!

Until next time,

Heather ~Natural Clarity Coaching~ www.naturalclaritycoaching.com na********************@***il.com Natural Clarity Coaching on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter

Nutrition, Exercise, Sleep – The Big 3

Nutrition.  Exercise.  Sleep.  These three items are integral to our overall health and wellbeing.  Making them part of a daily routine helps to ensure that we regularly include them in our lives in positive ways.

sleep exercise nutrition venn diagram

One thing I have found to be very true is that moderation is key when it comes to eating.  Quantity and quality are meaningful here.  Try to eat three adequately-portioned meals per day with a couple of snacks mixed in.  Check out food/calorie guides to determine your best options in your circumstances.  Keep vegetables, fruits and nuts in your daily regimen because they typically pack in plenty of nutritional benefits.  From my experience, it’s preferable to allow for occasional ‘cheats’ because, for many of us, restricting ourselves from a certain item almost always leads to a greater desire for it.

Exercise is another big area.  Try to get yourself moving as much as possible, especially in this time of more sedentary work-from-home situations.  Walking, biking, hiking, dancing, swimming, yoga, sports, skiing, working out, and so on – whatever you like and can manage to do regularly, make it a solid routine.  Do what you enjoy and it will never feel like a chore.

Sleep, although it may seem like something we can do without at times, is integral to our mental and physical wellbeing.  Sleep gives our bodies and minds time to repair and recharge.  Without proper amounts of slumber, we will inevitably begin to decrease in our functionality on both mental and physical levels.

What it all boils down to when it comes to overall wellness is that MODERATION is key.  Someone very close to me who aged gracefully and healthfully, both physically and mentally, into their 100’s, lived life by that very motto.

Nutrition, exercise, sleep – the Big 3!  Maintaining this trio can create huge benefits that will make for a more enjoyable, fulfilling, healthful and possibly long life.

Until next time,

Heather ~Natural Clarity Coaching~  www.naturalclaritycoaching.com  na********************@***il.com  Natural Clarity Coaching on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter