Low contact and no contact are two highly-recommended tools to protect oneself from narcissists and their dysfunctional, abusive behaviour.
Low contact means simply having very little contact with narcissistic people such as parents, siblings, friends. If you choose to have someone narcissistic in your life for whatever reason, it can look like infrequent phone calls or visits, mailing letters or sending emails. In a work setting where it is impossible not to interact with a narcissistic employer or co-worker, it may look more like brief professional conversations (no emotion or personal content) and only when absolutely necessary. It definitely involves creating boundaries in which you feel safe, and then strongly enforcing them. Whatever works for you, do it. It’s an individual preference. No contact entails zero association with narcissists; no verbal, in-person or written interactions, no checking their social media. It means having absolutely nothing to do with them. This can be challenging at first but becomes much easier as each day passes. It is also worth noting that most narcissistic-type individuals will push back against boundaries and changes in their level of control. Stay strong and keep the faith that you are doing what is in your best interests. As a side note, dealing with a narcissistic significant other can look very different than the relationships listed above; however, there are still ways to protect yourself and make good choices for your future. I will write about this in future posts.
Both of these methods work very well for many people in protecting their peace and sanity from narcissists. It allows clarity and a new sense of perspective to develop, free from anyone who seeks to control, condescend, intimidate or manipulate.
So, if you are in search of tools to protect your calm and wellbeing, low contact and/or no contact can literally be a lifesaver. If you feel that you could use a support system during this process, please contact Natural Clarity Coaching at the email listed below for further information. That’s what we’re here for.
Until next time!
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